Thursday, October 7, 2010

Am I The Last To Know?


This is what I found on my husband's Facebook. I don't have his password but he forgot to log off so I can see what he left on his friend's account. So, does this imply that I am the last to know about his relationship and his friends all know that they are together?

I questioned him about this and the reply from him was that he and this girl are so close, people all think that they are dating even though they are not. Is this right of a married man?

What are your thoughts on this?

After I checked his phone, he was again, bugging me about his "privacy". How to give a man who cheats his "privacy"?

Please comment and let me have your views.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hope I'm not shooting myself in the mouth by commenting. But these are just my 2 cents worth.

I would suspect that your hb did get up to something, but because you forgave him and chose to believe him quite easily...he may feel that he can still continue.

I've come across some software called Keylogger. There are several brands out there, eg. http://www.actualspy.com/
You may think of installing in your computer so when he logs in to his accts, you can see his password and thereafter login and monitor yourself.

All the best!

Ivy said...

Hi, thank you for your advise. The problem is that he usually log onto his accounts on his mobile (it is always Facebook) and I am unable to install any software to monitor him.

Anonymous said...

a married man should not have a friend, particularly female, so close that people think they are together. he should be confiding in the wife.

i find this quite insightful: http://www.marriagemissions.com/shattered-vows-getting-beyond-betrayal/

Ivy said...

Hi Anonymous,

Thank you for the website. It really is pretty insightful.

Its really very true that the betrayed will want all the details while the unfaithful just don't want to talk about it. This is what I am going through right now.

Sighs.. I wonder where this will lead to.

Anonymous said...

Install the keylogger on your home pc...somehow get his phone to jam or spoil. So he will need to use the home pc. And you'll have his password from there.
There are free keyloggers out there, but you gotta search for it!

Ivy said...

Get his phone to jam or spoil? Not possible...his phone is precious to him and he will not leave it out of his sight.

Anonymous said...

Sorry, but the way you described his actions for the past few posts, I don't think he has any intention of making up for his mistakes. The only one who seems to be putting effort in is you. In fact, he most likely think that there is nothing wrong with it.

That is the reason why he does not bother to build up the trust again.

Also the fact that other people think they are dating means that they are behaving like boyfriend and girlfriend whether it is through speach or body langugage. No one who behaves appropriately will give the wrong impression to other people.